Friday, January 7, 2011

Ten Ways You Can Be Happy

FUN COMMANDMENT EIGHT:


Stay Focused, But Flexible


This sounds like an assignment for a contortionist. Focused

and flexible? Aren’t they opposites?

Let me put it this way. We all know the shortest distance

between two points is… usually under construction. That’s right.

The theoretical straight line does not exist in real life.

We are challenged to keep our goals and priorities clearly in

focus, while remaining flexible enough to accommodate the

inevitable surprises. At times life resembles a game of “Twister.”

That’s why humor is so valuable.

Balance is the issue. If focus overrides flexibility, we become

stubborn, rigid and bull-headed. If flexibility eclipses focus, we are

left aimless and vulnerable. Humor helps us avoid these extremes.

When it comes to flexibility, your humor nature offers a

win/win situation. Flexibility stimulates your sense of humor and

humor will keep you more flexible.

If you are having trouble with this seemingly oxymoronic

“commandment,” here’s an exercise that might help:



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Exercise #8:


Keep humor props with you at all times. Props are very

helpful in keeping focus and perspective.

For example, one prop I find indispensable in rush hour

traffic is my red clown nose. When caught in a “logjam ”, I put on

the nose and wave to people in the other cars.

Incidentally, if you should ever want to try this, I will warn

you right now that half the people who see you do this won’t like it.

They’ll look away quickly, so as not to encourage you at all. But the

other 50 percent love it. They laugh, wave, and tell m e I’m #1 - at

least I think that’s what that finger means.

The point is that, regardless of the effect it has on others,

the prop helps m e stay focused on the big picture, which keeps the

small frustrations in perspective.